It's Not Happily Ever After
I generally don't post two blogs in the same weekend or even in the same month but going to my little sister's engagement/house warming party yesterday got me thinking about all the other soon-to-be or recently married couples and what I would say to them after almost 19 years of marriage. I know that the world is full of advice about how to have a successful marriage and many fairy tale ideas of what a "perfect" marriage looks like. But I want to be perfectly honest and hopefully not give quip advice that will only lead to delusions about what marriage should be like. 1. Marriage is not 50/50. The idea of marriage being 50/50 chafes my mind like a tight pair of jeans chafe my legs. If you go into marriage with the idea that you only need to give 50% effort, you will be grossly disappointed. When you go into marriage you should go in with the idea that you need to put 100% of yourself into the success of your marriage but you should also be aware that the...